You matched. You vibed. Maybe you even exchanged spicy photos or made loose plans for a drink/snog/sleepover. And then… Is that crickets you hear? You’ve been ghosted - and yeah, it sucks, even when you’re just casually dating.
First, a gentle, big-sisterly reminder: Ghosting isn’t a reflection of your worth. People flake for a hundred reasons. Bad timing, cold feet, someone else reappeared, or they just got lost in the Bermuda Triangle of unread DMs. Still, if you're feeling a bit ghosted and want to send a message (without spiraling into dramatic monologue), here are some texts that keep it classy, confident, and totally ghostbuster-friendly.
“Hey, not sure if you're still around, but you kinda disappeared like a sexy magician. All good either way - just checking in.”
“Was vibing with our chats, but guessing you’ve dipped? No hard feelings, just prefer clarity over mystery.”
“Hey, disappearing is totally valid, just not really my style. Wishing you well either way.”
Why it works: These messages gently acknowledge the ghosting without going full drama llama. They leave the door open for a response, but also let you exit with your dignity (and your sass) intact.
“Hey, feels like we’ve fizzled, and that’s cool. Just wanted to say take care.”
“Guess this one’s going to the chat graveyard. No stress, catch you in another life (or app).”
“This convo has officially flatlined. Time of death: Whenever you stopped replying. RIP.”
Why it works: You're showing emotional intelligence and moving on without bitterness. Think of it as the digital equivalent of a graceful Irish goodbye.
“Hey, not sure if life got busy or you ghosted me, but if you're still interested, I’d be down to pick things back up.”
“If you're still lurking around and felt a spark like I did, slide back in. No pressure.”
“Disappearing acts aside, I liked our vibe. Want to give it another go?”
Why it works: Vulnerable and low-pressure. You’re being honest without chasing, and putting the ball in their court. If they don’t respond? At least you know you showed up authentically.
You are under zero obligation to chase someone who ghosted. Not even a little bit. Sometimes the most powerful move is just to delete the chat, unfollow, and move on with your hot, unbothered self. You owe them nothing.
But if you do want to reach out, keep it simple, self-respecting, and light-hearted. You’re not here to beg, you’re here to communicate like the emotionally literate human you are (and you hope others can be, too).
Want to throw in a cheeky meme to soften the blow? Do it. Want to skip the whole thing and match with someone who knows how to use the reply button? Also valid.
Either way, you deserve connection, honesty, and someone who doesn’t vanish mid-flirt. Ghosts are for Halloween, not your dating life.
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